"You made me do it"!

"What? Have I got a hand up your arse and making your lips move?
"No, I can't make you do something. I can't make you feel something. I might be able to evoke something in you, provoke you, but you're responsible for what you do. You! No-one else! "
How often that comes back to me, or variations of it, and how much better I feel for understanding what Bryan meant and learning from yet another lesson.
Instead of reacting to an event, a person - recognise the feelings, accept them (yes, play a fantasy horror film in your head for a few seconds) and then - only then - respond and act.
OK, I don't always get it right, and there are still situations that set me off, but I feel Bryan there, giving me the evil eye when I need it.